Family Assistants & Household Managers in Raleigh, NC
The kids, the calendar, and the house, handled by one person.
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What a family assistant or household manager does
A family assistant combines childcare with running the household. A household manager focuses mainly on the home, with less hands-on time with the kids. The titles overlap, and we'll help you decide which fits your family.
The kids
School pickup, activities, homework, and engaging, age-appropriate time at home, the way a great nanny would.
Meals
Weekly menus for your approval, grocery shopping, meal prep, and healthy dinners on the table.
Errands and returns
Pharmacy, dry cleaning, gifts, and shipping returns, without you giving up a lunch break.
Vendors and the house
Vetting contractors, scheduling maintenance, meeting the repair person, and keeping an eye on plants and pets.
Family calendar and travel
One shared calendar for everyone, plus planning and packing for family vacations.
Systems and other staff
Seasonal clothing rotations, organized closets and pantries, and coordinating the housekeeper or other household staff.
Family assistant, nanny, or personal assistant?
Families often start looking for a nanny and realize they need more. Here's how the roles differ.
“When I read about the idea of a Family Assistant on the Triangle Nannies website, a lightbulb went off!” Martha Newport, Google Review
Mainly need childcare? Full-Time Nannies · Mainly need help for yourself? Personal Assistants
Raleigh families who hire a family assistant
Most families come to this role when their kids get a little older and the household logistics start to outweigh the childcare.
Your nanny has free hours, and you have a to-do list
Once your youngest is about five and in school all day, a full-time nanny has hours to fill. A family assistant uses them on meals, errands, and the house, so the role stays full-time and the kids keep a familiar face.
Three kids, three schedules
More children means more pickups, more practices, and more laundry. A family assistant keeps the family calendar and the household moving in step.
The house has become its own job
A bigger home in North Raleigh or around Wake Forest means more vendors, more maintenance, and often a housekeeper to coordinate. A household manager runs it all and keeps you posted.
“Triangle Nannies worked very closely with us on finding the perfect nanny/household manager match for our family.” Morgan Sill Henis, Facebook Review
What does a family assistant cost in Raleigh?
The family assistants and household managers we place in Raleigh typically earn $30 to $40 an hour. Where a role lands depends on the number of kids, how much of the household they run, and whether they manage other staff.
Base wages only. Payroll taxes, paid time off, mileage, a phone stipend, and agency fees are separate.
Three decisions that make a Raleigh family assistant role work
Our full-time family assistants and household managers stay more than three and a half years on average. These setup choices are a big reason why.
Rank the jobs
When the role covers everything, something gets dropped. Decide what comes first when time runs short, usually the kids, then meals, then errands, so your assistant never has to guess.
Set a budget and a card
Groceries, returns, and vendor deposits all cost money. Give your assistant a household card with a limit and a simple way to log receipts, and agree which purchases need your OK first.
Plan the driving
School, practice, Costco, and the hardware store are rarely in the same part of Raleigh. Agree whose car is used, how mileage is reimbursed, and how car seats move between cars. We check driving records during screening.
Hiring a family assistant, step by step
- Multiple interviews with our placement team
- Phone checks with three professional references, 26+ questions each
- A criminal background check
- A driving record check for roles that involve driving
Tell us about your household
Fill out the family application. We'll reach out to schedule a discovery call about your kids, your home, and what's slipping.
Shape the role
After you sign the Master Service Agreement and pay the $500 retainer, we turn your list into a job description: family assistant or household manager, with priorities you approve.
We recruit and screen
We look for candidates with both childcare experience and the organizing skills to run a household.
Meet a short list
You interview the strongest candidates, then try your top choice on a paid working day with a real task list.
Make the hire
You customize our attorney-reviewed hiring templates and we submit your offer. The placement fee is invoiced once it's accepted.
We stay close
We check in during the first months, help with reviews and raises, and run a replacement search under our policy if the fit doesn't hold.
Questions about family assistants and household managers in Raleigh
How much does a family assistant or household manager cost in Raleigh?
Family assistants and household managers we place in Raleigh typically earn $30 to $40 per hour. At 40 hours a week, that's about $62,000 to $83,000 a year in base wages, before employer payroll taxes, benefits, mileage, and agency fees.
What's the difference between a family assistant and a household manager?
A family assistant combines hands-on childcare with running the household. A household manager focuses mainly on the home, with limited supervision of children, and often manages other household staff. The titles are used interchangeably, and we'll help you choose the right one.
Can my nanny become a family assistant?
Often, yes. Families usually consider a family assistant once their youngest is about five and in school, which frees up hours for household work. Some nannies love the change; others prefer to stay focused on childcare. We can help you have that conversation, or search for someone new.
What's the difference between a family assistant and a personal assistant?
A family assistant supports the whole household, usually including the kids. A personal assistant supports one or two adults: their calendar, communication, errands, travel, and paperwork.
What does Triangle Nannies charge to place a family assistant?
A non-refundable $500 retainer is due when your search begins. After a successful placement, the placement fee is 20% of the assistant's first-year annual salary, with an $8,000 minimum for part-time and full-time placements as set out in the Master Service Agreement. See full pricing details.
How long does it take to hire a family assistant in Raleigh?
Most searches take 4–6 weeks from the discovery call to an accepted offer. Roles that include managing other staff or unusual hours can take longer.
Other household roles we place in Raleigh
Many Raleigh families pair a family assistant with one of these. See everything we do in Raleigh.
Tell us what's slipping at home.
Share your kids' week, your household, and the jobs you'd hand off first. We'll review it and reach out to set up your discovery call.
Raleigh, NC 27601